Woman urged to dump boyfriend over complaint about her matching tattoo with ex

29 July 2023 , 11:19

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The row could mark the end of the couple's relationship (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A woman has been urged to leave her relationship after her partner took issue with her matching tattoo with her late ex. As the upset girlfriend, 25, explained in a post to Reddit, she got a matching tattoo with her previous partner during their relationship, which started in 2017. Tragically, he died in 2021.

"We both decided to get a couples tattoo in 2019 for my birthday as I always wanted a tattoo of a moon and sun, I have the moon he had the sun," she wrote. Keen to be upfront with her new partner after they started dating in the May of this year, she shared the meaning behind her ink.

Unfortunately, though her boyfriend "didn't mind" her tattoo at first, he's since started asking when she plans to remove it - something she doesn't want to do. "I told him I didn't want to remove it and he started getting angry and we got into an argument. He said 'There's no point in me still having a couples tattoo if the person I got the tattoo with is no longer around'," she recalled. "I got mad and told him if he doesn’t like the fact I won’t remove my tattoo maybe we should end things."

Her boyfriend, however, dismissed her feelings, as he suggested it is "not a big deal" and that they shouldn't break up over something "so small". But Reddit users felt very differently about the matter.

Referencing the pseudonym the author gave for her former partner, one commenter wrote: "Jason is not your ex, that implies that you broke up. He's your partner of 4 years who unfortunately died. To me, removing the tattoo would be like destroying photos of a deceased loved one, just not something that I would do.

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"If a boyfriend has issues with you remembering and honouring your relationship with a deceased loved one, they are not the right one for you." A second said: "If it's 'something so small; then he shouldn't have a problem with you keeping it."

A third wrote: "Firstly sorry for your loss. Secondly, I'd understand how he's feeling if it was a normal breakup, however someone important to you passed away, so would he be angry if it was it had been a family member or friend? Probably not. There's no difference here. On top of that even if it had been a normal circumstance, it's still your body and your choice." Another echoed: "You have the right to do whatever you want. If you want to keep or remove the tattoo, it's your choice."

Amber O'Connor