Man tells mother-in-law to leave his wedding over something she chose to wear

20 January 2024 , 08:00

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The groom asked his mother-in-law to leave his wedding over something she was wearing (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

A groom spent his wedding night alone after a spat with his mother-in-law over something she wore.

Your wedding should be one of the happiest days of your life, although it was anything but for one groom who felt compelled to ask his mother-in-law to leave the special event because of her perfume choice.

After the disgruntled woman refused to go home and change, the groom spent most of the reception outside with his family because he couldn't stand to be near his new in-law. He took to Reddit to share his newlywed issue and to ask others if they thought he was in the wrong for making a stand.

Explaining that he usually gets on well with the parents of "the love of my life", he said the problem on their wedding day was how his mother-in-law smelt. She was wearing a perfume that he unexpectedly became allergic to.

Because his wife had chosen her mum as matron of honour, she was up at the front with the couple when they were taking their vows. "Shortly after the ceremony started," he revealed, "I started to get watery eyes and sniffles. Our ceremony was supposed to only last 20 minutes max so I thought I would just push through unless it got worse."

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Although it didn't appear to worsen at first, it was when his new mother-in-law hugged him that it became a real issue. "Itchy eyes, itchy throat, and headache got added to the mix," he said. "My wife asked if I was alright and I told her I think her mother's perfume was getting to me. We had someone go get some allergy medication. I took one but it didn't do a whole lot and I started to feel out of it."

When it came to taking the photos, the groom couldn't be in group ones with the woman and he realised they would have to do something if he was going to be able to stay at his own reception. His new wife asked her mother to keep her distance but that didn't work either.

"That perfume followed her like a damn cloud," he said before sharing the other options they considered. "Then my wife asked her mum to try and wash wherever she dabbed her perfume but mother-in-law said she hadn't dabbed it on, she spritzed herself so it was on her dress too. At that point they said they were out of ideas and there wasn't anything we could do."

However, he offered another idea - that she go home and change or he would pay for her to go to a "thrift store" and buy a replacement dress. Failing that he suggested she just went home and they'd visit later with cake because he feared having to leave the wedding himself if something wasn't done.

That didn't go down too well with them though: "My wife and mother-in-law objected to this because my wife wanted her mum there the whole time," he explained. "I understand the day was big for my wife and she wanted her mother there and I wanted her there too but I wasn't able to enjoy my own wedding. I wound up sitting outside with some of my family and groomsmen."

Despite feeling better in the fresh air, the man refused to go back inside when his wife asked him to because her mum was still there and it resulted in a drastic consequence for him. "The night ended with my wife spending our wedding night at her parents' house," he said.

Readers were quick to react to his nuptial nightmare and most were in full support of his decision but not that of his wife. "Bad situation, but you were being reasonable," replied one as they continued. "Mother-in-law should have gone and taken a shower and returned with clean clothes. Wife is being unreasonable - I hope you didn't sign the wedding papers yet!"

Plenty more commenters agreed with the somewhat drastic solution. "If my mother in law knowingly gave me a migraine at my own wedding and refused to do anything to help - especially if my spouse chose her presence over mine - I’d be looking for immediate divorce papers," said a second.

"At the wedding it's even easier, just rip up the marriage license form," said a third as another agreed his wife should have supported him and it's a concern going forward. "[His] wife basically let him know who side she will be on now and in the future. Not his!!" they wrote.

Another poster thought he needed to take action: "Tell whoever officiated to hold off on sending them in to be recorded. If your wife can't be on your side and have your back tell the officiant to tear up the license and you won't have to worry about annulment (or divorce later)," they ranted.