'I caught my wife cheating two years ago and I haven't stopped her'
For many people in a relationship, cheating is the one thing that would definitely cause an instant break-up - but when one man caught his wife in the act two years prior, he decided to keep quiet.
The man described his marriage as "f**king awesome", sharing that they're "completely in love", have three kids together, and have a good sex life. So when he came back from a drive on his break to find her with another man, he felt betrayed. However, things took a bizarre turn when he admitted that he knew who the man was, and shared that he was "kinda okay with it."
He took to Reddit to explain the situation, penning: "A few years ago, I was on my lunch break and was out on a drive. I popped by my house and my garage door was open and my wife's car and another car were there. I parked across the street and went in through the garage, which is in our basement, essentially under the bedrooms of our split-level house.
"Literally the second I was in the garage, I could hear the bed in our spare bedroom above me bouncing and muffled sounds that were clearly sex. I stood there, basically in disbelief of what I was hearing, but I wasn't overcome with anger or anything."
He said that he "crept up the steps" after quietly opening the door into the house, and after satisfying his curiosity, he "snuck back down the steps, through the garage" and back out to his car. He then watched them leave about "15 minutes later", and "they just walked out in broad daylight."
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The man then said: "The thing is...our marriage is f**king awesome. Like, totally spot-on amazing. We have sex almost every night and we're completely in love. We have three kids together and life is damn good. Over the past couple of years, I sporadically pop past the house in the middle of the day and that car is there about two to three times a month, I am 100% aware of what is happening, and I'm kinda okay with it! Oh, and I know who the guy is, too. I had a police pal run the plate and it's one of her college boyfriends. He's also married."
The man shared that if she ever finds out he's going to tell her that he's okay with it because their marriage is otherwise "perfect", and he said that he's "fine" with her friends-with-benefits situation. "What do you all think? Does anyone else have this type of situation? Am I a total weirdo?", he asked.
In the comments, someone referred to the post as "oddly wholesome", and someone else penned: "If it works for you that's ok." Another wrote: "It's probably a good idea to talk to her about this. Hear me out. You're in a rare situation where you know your wife is cheating and you're cool with it. You're okay with it because you feel you're marriage is 'perfect'. But think of it from her perspective...She feels that something is missing.
"Now you might feel that's not an issue, but there are other factors you should think about. She likely feels some combination of anxiety, guilt, and resentment doing this. Eventually, if you don't communicate about this, that resentment might project to you, especially if she thinks you wouldn't understand her need to look outside the marriage.
"Instead, imagine if you approached her. Not as a jaded husband who 'caught' her but as her best friend who supports her, understands, and still loves and accepts her. This pretty much solidifies your relationship through an otherwise toxic timebomb waiting to explode. Anyway, I wish you the best. You seem like a chill dude."
Someone joked: "Bro if you ever do something that p***es her off really bad you have a get out of the doghouse free card", and the original poster said that the comment made him "laugh big time."
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