'My in-laws have taken over our home and it's seriously affecting my marriage'
A worried wife has opened up about her marital problems, which materialised during her in-laws staying with her and her husband for three months. The 34-year-old woman told how her husband’s lack of communication was the cause, leading her to feeling: ‘hurt and confused’, and considering moving back in with her own parents permanently instead.
Setting the scene, she said that after her in-laws had their visa approved to visit the US where the couple live, she told her husband how happy she was, and that a month was a good amount of time for them to stay with them.
“My husband got really angry at me and yelled at me that his parents can come for as long as they want to,” she said, admitting she felt upset at his reaction. “I felt he was being selfish and not considering me as someone who also lives in the household. I work from home, and we live in a very small apartment (880 sq ft). Them coming for so long would complicate things for me and put me in an uncomfortable position, especially because I don't speak their language.”
Due to his parents mistake and her husband's vacation time, she then told how her husband decided they could come and stay for three months instead – without consulting her first. “I was not happy with this decision, but tried to understand him. It's his parents, and there is a chance that they may not be able to ever come back," she said.
To add more complication, the wife said how another family member also received approval on their visa, with her husband telling them they could also stay for a month, even though she had suggested two weeks due to the size of their home.
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“I was frustrated at the idea that a third person was coming for so long, and he did not take my feelings into consideration when making this decision,” she said. To try to make things easier she moved back in with her own parents for a few weeks, only to learn that her husband had booked a family vacation without her knowledge.
“He didn't even ask me if I wanted to join, or if I was okay with that – nothing. It made me feel very sad and upset that again he did not take me into consideration when making these decisions. I was very upset; I felt like I wanted to cry, so I went to my room. My husband got upset at my reaction and left the house with his family.”
After initiating a talk with her husband, she told him how she felt: “betrayed, left out, and unloved by his actions. He got super angry and started yelling at me. His family was in the room next door and could hear his yelling. I was trying to express my emotions in a respectful way, but that seemed to trigger him even more,” she recalled.
With her husband telling her that her behaviour had made his parents uncomfortable, while ruining their trip, she headed to Reddit to say that her husband's actions had caused such a negative reaction, causing her: ‘to reach breaking point.”
“I do understand his desire to please his family and make them happy, but I feel after the fight we had last night, things are awkward and weird among everyone, and his family is obviously on his side. So, I feel extremely uncomfortable in my own house. I don't know what to do. Should I got back to my parents house?” With more than 1k people commenting on her post, many sided with her.
One simply said: “Your husband sounds awful,” while another commented: “Every single time you open your mouth he flips out. Why would you stay with him? He's clearly very selfish and only cares about himself. Go back to your parents house permanently and ditch this guy.”
Another reader agreed, saying: “He wants them to think he’s in charge. He’s being really disrespectful. I’d stay at your parents’ house until you get a decent apology from him,” while one reader commented: “You teach people how to treat you. He is dismissive, disrespectful, and disregarding you.” Another advised she took things even further saying: “Your husband does not respect you. I would leave.”
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