Best man refuses to turn up to wedding because his girlfriend isn't invited
Attending weddings can be really fun, especially if you're particularly close to the person about to enter marital bliss with their partner. The day is a huge outpouring of love, and whether the wedding is big, or small, traditional, or totally unconventional, there's no denying that it'll make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
When one man found out his best friend had recently got engaged, he was "over the moon for them", and when he was asked to be best man, he was thrilled to oblige. But when he found out that his girlfriend wasn't invited to the ceremony, only receiving an "evening invitation", he was left fuming and not wanting to go without her.
He took to Reddit to write: "One of my best friends has recently got engaged to his girlfriend of four years, they will be getting married next year and I was over the moon for them. A few days ago he asked me to be his best man and I said yes, I'd never have considered saying no, but yesterday official invites were handed out and my girlfriend was only granted an evening invitation.
"They said that they were only allowed 50 people to the ceremony and 100 to the evening, and any additional seats would cost them money. If it were a case of the pair of them having huge pools of family and friends and they had to make a cut I wouldn't feel angry about it but they both have very small families and I then found out that people they met online playing video games have been invited to the day and not only that but their partners have also been invited. It just feels like a bit of a slap to the face, being the best man and not being allowed one space."
The original poster said that the bride-to-be has said she "doesn't like new people in her life" and his girlfriend has "very rarely been invited to social events at their house", despite the fact that he's been with her for six months, "and by the time the wedding comes around it'll be pushing two years."
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The man was so mad, he: "Ended up telling my friend that not only would I be pulling out of being his best man, but I wouldn't be going to the wedding and it's safe to say he wasn't best pleased. He tried to explain it rationally with there not being space for her but I stuck to my guns.
"I know this may make me the a**hole because I'm throwing away years of friendship for something that likely wasn't a huge consideration for them, there just wasn't enough space, but knowing how this had made me feel, I don't think I'd be capable of giving a nice speech during the day."
In an edit, he explained that he had thought further about the situation, he admitted that he may be "blowing things out of proportion" in hindsight, but "in the heat of the moment it felt like a personal slight" because he's friends with the pair of them.
Someone in the comments wrote: "They have limited space and wish to keep the wedding on a budget. It is not for you to decide who watches the ceremony and who doesn't. Your girlfriend has an invite to the evening reception. It is truly up to the couple on who they wish to attend the morning portion and watch them tie the knot. I bet if you asked your girlfriend if she cares or not I'd wager it is the latter.
"All she gets is a free meal, drinks, and a dance party - sounds perfect to her. Push your ego aside and have a conversation with the groom. Explain how you feel and talk it out. Lastly, you have over a year to work through this issue and deliver a speech."
Another defended the man's decision by writing: "He is simply refusing to attend an event without his girlfriend, how on earth does it make him an a**? Reddit is wild sometimes."
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