Bride bans sister's husband from her wedding photos 'just in case'
Weddings are notorious for causing arguments between families. Moreover, they can also cause normally sane people to turn into deranged bridezillas as they become obsessed with trying to make sure every single detail of their special day is 100 percent perfect.
The official photos are a big part (some might say too big) of the event and are generally planned as meticulously as the rest of the day. Usually taking place after the ceremony while the guests mill around, hopefully enjoying a glass of fizz and some canapés, the happy couple will have probably decided what groups of people they want in the different images to remember the 'best day of their lives' by.
Such was the case for one bride-to-be, but it seems she's being very strict on who is allowed in the snaps, according to her sister. Sharing her story on Reddit as consequentialism_97, the sister said she lived on "opposite coasts" to her younger sibling who was immersed in planning her wedding. Because of this, she hadn't been hugely involved in the whole process but her sister did inform her of one particular detail that shocked her. She asked that her husband be absent from some of the snaps.
"Yesterday she booked her photographer and we were going over other people's online wedding photos together when she made an odd request. She insisted we take photos in which my husband specifically does not appear, 'just in case'," she posted. She checked that her sister didn't just mean in the special girls' group pictures, but she didn't.
"Not girls only, blood only, bridesmaids only - without him, in case we split. I checked. I was honestly shocked and had to stop myself from suggesting we take photos without the groom then since divorce seems such a likelihood these days, but it's completely put me off being there at all."
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It confused her even more because she said she and her husband are happily married so there's no reason to even suggest they would split up. "We have a child together, we're married, never said an unkind word to each other. I see no reason to imply we would ever separate,” she wrote while asking other users: "Is this a sane ask? I've never been more than a simple wedding guest before so perhaps I am being an A?"
Most commenters thought the bride-to-be's request was ridiculous and came up with some suggestions for the sister. One said: "Go ahead and suggest to take pictures without the groom 'just in case'. While your (sic) at it, suggest pictures with your parents separately as well as the in-laws… 'just in case'. After all, divorce isn't just exclusive to the younger generations. There have been plenty of parents splitting up after the kids are grown."
Another quipped: "Better yet - take a solo picture of everyone in front of a greenscreen. Then you can arrange and alter the wedding pictures according to the latest relationship 'updates'." As a third added: "But please also with a green suit to accommodate the different styles over the years!"
One user was a little more logical and thought there could be a more reasonable way to approach the issue: "I’d always argue longevity over being married too. My friend, not unreasonably, didn't want me to bring my bf of only 6 months to her (very small) wedding as she wanted to be able to look back at the photos without a bunch of people in them who she didn’t recognise if we’d split up later. What would've been unreasonable is if she got married now and didn't want him there - we've been together 10 years and have a child, we just aren't married."
The sister added an update thanking people for their input and said she had decided to go to the wedding and "see what her intentions are on the spot and if she's specifically singling out my partner. That way, if she is, I can call her out in front of everyone. If she's not, just have a wonderful time."
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