12 September 2023 , 09:41
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Meeting your best friend's new boyfriend is a really big deal. But what happens when you can't stand the man in question? That was the dilemma facing one bride when she met her maid of honour's significant other in the lead-up to her December wedding.
Her best friend had recently started dating a new guy and asked if she could bring him along to the nuptials. The bride-to-be and her fiancé agreed, provided they could meet him first, so the foursome headed out for dinner together - and all went well.
Fast-forward a few weeks and the bride held her wedding shower, attended by both her maid of honour and the boyfriend. While everything began well enough, it didn't take long for her pal's beau to start airing his opinions - to the shock of the bride and the rest of the party.
She explained on Reddit that the celebration was being held at her sister-in-law's home and he began by making snide comments about the size of the property, and later stated: "Living room's a bit of a mess. Maybe you should just let (SIL's husband) bring home the bacon and you can stay here and clean up."
It got worse. He also approached the bride's sister who had attended with her tiny two-month-old child. "Is this the new baby? Let's hope God is on his side and he doesn't look this messed up when he grows up," he cruelly asked, while laughing.
'I don't want children staying up late at weekends - I really need adult time'
But the final straw came when he directed his comments at the bride's little eight-year-old sister, who will be acting as a flower girl at the wedding. "Aww, what a cute dress! Of course she should probably lose some weight before the wedding," he stated.
Understandably, the bride flipped and he was told to leave - which he did, along with the maid of honour. "When I returned home at the shower and checked my phone I saw hundreds of angry texts from my best friend," the bride revealed. "I won't recite all of them, but most were along the lines that people act differently where he is from and that I need to get over this easily offended attitude I have. He is from somewhere in the UK.
"Everyone else at the party agrees with me and my fiancé, but my best friend is very very upset with me and now is saying that she refuses to attend my wedding if he won't also be there. I don't know what to do."
Users were quick to reach out and offer advice with one writing: "What you do is say to your friend, 'Your boyfriend is unapologetically rude and insensitive and is no longer invited. If you feel that you cannot attend, I won't say that I understand, but I acknowledge that that is your choice to make. I love you, and I hope you will come.'"
A second suggested: "Well, I'd touch base with any shared friends. Is he being a jerk to them too? If he's trying to isolate her from friends, possibly family...well, it's never a good thing. Of course it's not okay to make comments about a little kid like that, it can really mess with their heads, but if this is abnormal behaviour from her and prior to this they had a good friendship, it might be worth trying to salvage."
And a third argued: "I'm from the UK, I've lived in multiple parts of the UK, and the stuff he was saying is totally out of line anywhere. Yeah, different cultures might have differing standards on what is rude etc, but some things are universal."
Do you agree with the bride? Let us know in the comments.