'I'm skipping sister-in-law's wedding because I hate the dress code'
A pregnant woman is refusing to attend her sister-in-law's wedding - and her reasoning is completely reasonable. Trying to dress comfortably when it's hot while you’re carrying a baby is no easy task and dressing elegantly under the same conditions is even harder.
Posting online, the woman said her husband's sister has a strict dress code for her wedding, as it is "black tie, long sleeves and floor-length gowns". It's proving difficult to adhere to for her because she is currently 34 weeks pregnant and overheats very quickly. Making things even trickier is the fact that the wedding is in the middle of summer. Now, she and her sister-in-law are in an argument about it.
These are the three dresses the pregnant woman suggested (Asos/ JJ's House)"Given that the wedding is entirely outside in a field and in the middle of the day, in a part of the country that's already incredibly hot, I cannot be in a long sleeve floor-length gown in the heat for eight hours," she wrote on Reddit. So the woman reached out to the bride and sent her a few different dress options to see if she would compromise.
The pregnant woman made sure to pick dresses that abided by the theme as closely as possible to ensure the bride would be happy. Unfortunately, the sister remained "adamant" about the dress code and said no to all these gowns. The sister reasoned that the dark blue one isn't floor length, the others don't have long sleeves and none of them are formal enough. Left frustrated by the situation, the original poster gave her sister-in-law an ultimatum.
"I told her yesterday that I cannot attend her wedding if she is not going to budge even slightly on the dress code. I told her she has the right to have her wedding exactly how she wants it, for it to be her perfect day but I have the right to look out for my own health," she wrote. "She freaked out at me and told me I was being incredibly selfish and that 'for once it isn’t about me and my f***ing baby'."
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The woman believes that this is a pointed dig at her because her sister-in-law is actually jealous that she's having the first grandchild and not her. "Since then my husband's side of the family has told me I'm being selfish and to just compromise for one day to keep the peace. Am I the a**hole and being unreasonable?"
People were quick to support the pregnant woman in the comments, with many sharing their own experiences. "Pregnant woman here! There is no way I would be able to adhere to her dress code. Today I just went outside in just a T-shirt and jeggings in 24-degree heat and I was overheating and I wasn't even out for eight hours. When you're pregnant, your temperature is already higher than normal, without being forced to wear black tie attire. Also I don't see anything wrong with your choices of dresses," one reader wrote. "I got a heatstroke at an outdoor wedding while pregnant last year. It was miserable and scary. Take care of yourself and your baby," another mum warned.
"I absolutely would have RSVP'd no to this! If they wanted it to be outside, they should have made more allowances on the sleeves. If they wanted sleeves, they should have had it indoors," a third person wrote. A fourth added: "Since when do you get to dictate how long someone's sleeves are? Just say black tie and leave it at that, sheesh." People criticised the pregnant woman's husband for not standing up for her, to which she clarified: "He's been so supportive and has told his sister that he won't go to the wedding either."
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