Woman ends marriage after reading husband's nickname for her in text messages

03 September 2023 , 11:48

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The mum says she felt the marriage was over after reading her husband's messages about her (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Divorce is no easy decision, and while some couples choose to go their separate ways on mutual grounds, other times it can be a partner who has prompted the breakup. Most commonly, break-ups can stem from infidelity, loss of trust, and lack of communication. However, one woman admits she divorced her husband once she found out the nickname he used to call her when he'd text his friends.

The woman claims she knew she had to leave her husband when she found messages on his phone with a cruel nickname for her. Writing anonymously to Mamamia, she expressed: "From the moment our son was born, nothing changed for my husband. He absolutely hated telling me what his plans were."

She says there was a shift in their marriage after their son was born, which she calls a "stubborn reluctance to tell us when he was going to participate in our lives." But one morning, when he was in the shower, she heard his phone 'pinging' incessantly.

The mum said she checked to see if there was anything urgent, but instead found a group message with his mates organising a 'do over' of the night before. Her husband had been out until midnight - presumably drinking - and went straight to the shower in the morning without speaking to his wife or baby. But that hadn't been what surprised her.

She recalls reading a text saying he couldn't make the drinks because "SWMBO will say no". Bemused and irritated he had blamed his absence on her, she confronted him about it and he casually replied: "It means 'She Who Must Be Obeyed'". Furious, she wrote: "It wasn't a matter of 'obeying' me ... It's not called 'asking permission' like he's a teenager and I'm his mother.

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"It's called respect for your family. After five years of marriage, this is what I'd become to him." Despite being married for five years and together for a decade, she says she knew she had to walk away from their relationship - as he no longer valued her.

Ayaan Ali