'Husband slept through our daughter's first birthday - he acts like a child'
A mum has been left outraged after her husband slept right through their daughter's first birthday party after spending the night out with his friends. She explained how her husband returned home at 3am, 11 hours before the birthday party, but couldn't get to sleep due to having a buzz from drinking alcohol.
He ended up staying up "for a bit" longer before finally rolling in to bed at 10am. Taking to Mumsnet, the mum said: "we planned a small party for my youngest daughter's first birthday. We decided to celebrate a few days early as her birthday is midweek and her dad - my husband - works away during the week and was not meant to be home.
"He came home early hours Friday morning and went to sleep as he works nights. Later that evening he decided out of the blue that he was going out with friends for a few hours as being away in a hotel all week gives him 'cabin fever'. I was OK with this and encouraged him to have a good night, reminding him not to stay out too late or drink too much as we had plans the following afternoon, he agreed and assured me he'd be home by 2am the latest."
The mum tried to wake him up at 1pm so he could shower and get dressed before the party just one hour later - but he complained about her disturbing his sleep. She added: "He moaned, rolled over and went back to sleep. I tried to wake him several times before saying f this and just taking our children to his parents, along with the cake I made the night previous and gifts for the party.
"We have loads of fun at the party and return home around 7pm. I get the girls to bed and start cleaning the house while he lounges on the sofa watching reruns of a show on Netflix. He then says to me 'Are you going to strop all night?' I say I think I'm allowed to be annoyed that you missed the first birthday celebrations that were planned specifically so you could attend.
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"All he had to say back to me was 'if I'm not tired I cant make myself go to sleep, its not my fault I slept all day. I feel like I've wasted the day in bed'. Which to me sounds like poor me I'm tired feel bad for me." Wanting to know whether she's justified to be annoyed at him for missing the party, she has taken to Mumsnet to ask users for their thoughts on the situation.
In response, one user said: "Women routinely have to do stuff on zero sleep, and not even fun stuff like getting up and going to a party with nice food and drink, more like being up all night and then going to work or managing months on broken sleep while looking after kids. Yet he really couldn't manage hauling himself out of his pit for a few hours for his own daughter's birthday party?" Another user added: "What is he? 17? What a t***. Seriously consider if you want to be with someone like that before its too late."
A third user said: "You sound empathetic that he is tired working away but opting out of family life when he is home and missing something like this is horrible. My husband used to work away and of course at weekends when he was home he would see friends, but he also made sure to spend quality family time with us, even if he was hanging after a night out he'd come along- not because I asked him to or because he'd be in the dog house but because he wanted to. Its a huge undertaking actually to manage the house and children as it were when a partner works away, for them to behave like this is seriously unappealing. That said if he's usually decent I'd be annoyed but let it go, if it's a pattern of other behaviours I'd have a think about what you want."
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