12 August 2023 , 14:15
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It's no secret that being pregnant and giving birth takes a toll on your body, and while some mums are eager to hit the gym and do what they can to regain their pre-baby body as quickly as possible, it's not easy and nobody should be shamed or criticised for the way they look.
And one man has been slammed online after he told his wife he wasn't "feeling the best" about her body, one year after she gave birth to their son. The woman's sister explained the baffling comment in a post on Reddit, where she said her sister felt uncomfortable seeing her wear a bikini on the beach because she's been feeling insecure about her own looks.
The woman then confessed that both she and her husband, Adam, have been unhappy with the progress she had made since their son was born. And in the comments, people were quick to brand Adam a walking "red flag" and call on his wife to divorce him as soon as possible.
In the Reddit post, the woman's sister wrote: "I am on a family vacation (parents, sister Rachel, her son, her husband Adam, and my husband and our daughter). We are by the sea and yesterday was the first time we'd be going to a beach club. My sister asked me not to wear a bikini or anything revealing because she said both she and Adam are not feeling the best about her postpartum body and she really doesn't want to bring the topic up. I said I was sorry she feels that way but I wasn't going to spend a day roasting under an umbrella, unable to swim or enjoy myself. I said tons of women would be in bikinis so I didn't see why I made a difference.
"We went to the beach and Rachel was a wreck all day, and refuse to come with us to the beach today. My parents are now saying I'm the a**hole for not just wearing a cover-up that you can still swim in and that if I keep wearing swimwear it's going to ruin the trip."
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Commenters on the post were quick to assure the woman that she wasn't in the wrong, but many of them said the more concerning part of her post was Adam's behaviour toward his wife, which was branded as "disgusting" and "vile".
One person pointed out: "[You're not the a**hole] for wearing the bikini at the beach, but you should show your sister some more empathy. She said both she *and her husband* are unhappy with her postpartum body? That is VILE. Her husband should not be body shaming your sister who JUST GAVE BIRTH. Ask your sister if she's okay. Call out your brother-in-law for his disgusting behaviour. If my sister told me what she told you, I would be really concerned. I wouldn't necessarily give in to the demand, but I would go out of my way to support her in other ways. It sounds like she needs help."
While another said: "At least nobody will lose Adam at the beach with him waving that giant red flag," and a third hinted at the need for a divorce when they wrote: "Your sister needs an urgent Adamectomy as soon as possible."
In an update to the post, the woman explained her brother-in-law has spoken to her about her own body in the past and has asked her how she lost her baby weight, which she admitted she did with the help of "surgery and non-invasive treatments", rather than simply diet and exercise.