13 May 2023 , 14:48
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When you propose to your partner, it makes sense that you'd want to do it in a way you know they'll like, as if you do something they're not keen on, it might make them think twice about saying yes.
And that's exactly what happened to one man who recently got rejected by his girlfriend after he completely ignored her wishes for a private proposal and got down on one knee in the middle of a public place.
The man's friend retold the story on social media when she explained he was devastated when his girlfriend, Dina, shot down his proposal, as he was sure she was going to say yes.
When asked why she rejected him, the man simply said Dina "didn't like how he proposed", and the friend had to ask the woman herself for more answers.
The man was devastated by his failed proposal (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)In her post on Reddit, the woman explained: "My friend decided to propose to his girlfriend of three years, Dina. The two met at a bar pre-COVID and were just chatting at first but it quickly led to more and eventually the two of them moved in together and discussed marriage.
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"Personally, I think they're a great match, and my friend, Stephen, has never been happier. He told me that he was planning to propose to Dina, and I was ecstatic.
"Well, the day of the proposal hits, and I called Stephen the next day to congratulate him. But he wasn't happy. He told me that Dina had said no. I was shocked and asked if he knew why. He said that she didn't like how he proposed.
"Now here's the thing. I knew he was going to pop the question, but I didn't know how he was going to do it. He thought it would be romantic to propose at the place they met ... yes. A bar.
"Already I could kind of see why she might not like that, but I decided to ask her privately because she and I have gotten to be close. She confided in me that it's because she told Stephen multiple times that she didn't want to have a public proposal, that she was horrified he would do it at a bar of all places and that she felt disrespected that he didn't accommodate that."
The woman returned to Stephen to slam him for his "disrespectful" proposal, but was told by the bloke that she should be "supportive" of him as his friend.
She added: "I told Stephen that his proposal was honestly really disrespectful and seriously kind of messed up, to which he told me I was being insensitive and should be supportive as his friend rather than talking down to him."
Commenters on the post were also livid with Stephen's actions though, as they said he purposefully ignored his girlfriend's wishes and proposed to her in a way he knew she would be uncomfortable with.
One person said: "If his girlfriend told him NOT to propose in a public setting, he should've respected that. The bar thing doesn't bother me because it's the location of their first date. What's bothersome is he did something she specifically asked him not to and now his feelings are hurt because he didn't listen to her."
As another added: "You probably were being insensitive since he was sad about it, but it's Stephen's fault for not respecting her. The location per se, wasn't disrespectful, but it was definitely disrespectful that he didn't listen to her and propose privately."