03 May 2023 , 12:22
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If you're pregnant, may. have planned out exactly how you want your big announcement to go. You might want to have family, friends, and loved ones near, and you'll no doubt want to be the ones to deliver the news yourself. But if you had that privilege taken away from you, how would you react?
Well, one woman was left dumbfounded after her mother-in-law stole a "once in a lifetime opportunity" away from them by sharing the news of her pregnancy when she was specifically told not to.
The couple then received an "apology" from her - not for what she did, but for "any lingering hard feelings", which irritated the mother-to-be even more.
The mum-to-be was gutted that she didn't get the opportunity to tell people about her pregnancy herself (Stock Image) (Getty Images)She took to Reddit to write: "My mother-in-law texted my husband (and only my husband) an 'apology' yesterday.
"She said 'I'm sorry for any lingering hard feelings' and later on in the text said 'sorry I got in the way' of us telling his extended family, but I don't feel any better."
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She explained she was mad the apology only extended to her husband, and not the both of them when it's both of their news to share "when, how, and with whom."
She also wasn't pleased that "she stole a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity" from them, and that was all she had to say about it.
The mum-to-be continued: "It feels like a massive lack of accountability and like she's just trying to put a bandaid on the issue since she's realising she screwed up MASSIVELY.
"I've since made it clear that we are to be asked before any news about our child is shared with anyone since I can’t trust her judgement. We were thinking about doing a small gender reveal with just our immediate families when we find out the gender next week but I honestly don't want her there now that I'm worried about her stealing these moments from us."
She said that she "never expected her to do anything like this" but also admitted she was "not surprised."
In the comments, people said that the couple needed to assert some stronger boundaries.
One wrote: "Nope, stick with the boundaries that you've already agreed upon. She's no longer invited to be part of the gender reveal and she can find out at the same time as you post to socials etc. That way she can't steal your moments anymore."
"Just do consequences", someone urged. "Let them know that you are doing a gender reveal, but given that they have previously blabbed, they'll be notified when everyone else is."
Another said: "My in-laws pull the same stunts. We have found out about every pregnancy in the family from them before the actual parents have a chance to share. It takes the moment away from both the expecting partners and the recipient of the news.
"We give them very little info and only stuff that we are already happy to be shared with other people."
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What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.