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A woman has sparked debate after refusing to attend her friend's wedding when she found out how strict the dress code was.
She thinks it's unreasonable to expect so much out of the wedding guests, but the bride-to-be is devastated and slammed her for being 'selfish'.
At the wedding, the men have to wear a full black tie suit, while the women are required to be in a floor-length purple or rose gown.
In her Reddit post, the woman added that her bride-to-be friend gave her an ultimatum - either follow the dress code or decline the invite. She decided on the latter.
She felt the dress code was far too specific (stock photo) (Getty Images/Tetra images RF)The woman, who remained anonymous, explained: "I don't own any floor-length gowns. I asked the bride if it would be okay to wear a knee-length dress with dressy shoes, but she insisted that I follow the dress code or not attend the wedding at all."
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She was told the wedding would be in six months, but the groom is travelling abroad for work soon so it has been brought forward to two weeks away - so she doesn't have the time to save up for a new frock.
"I decided that I didn't want to spend a lot of money that I don't have, on a dress I would never wear again, and so I politely declined the invitation," she wrote.
"She got angry and accused me of being selfish and unsupportive. She said that I should have made an effort to follow her dress code, as it was important to her to have a certain aesthetic for her wedding. And that she informed me earlier so she feels I should have made preparations towards it."
The bride-to-be then said she could rent a dress, but the woman pointed out they were just as expensive.
"I feel guilty for declining the invitation, and some of our mutual friends have also expressed disappointment in my decision," she stated.
"I understand that weddings are important events and it's important to show support for your friends, but I also feel like it's unreasonable to expect everyone to buy expensive clothes just for one occasion, and in my case, on such short notice. It's one week to the wedding and I feel terrible."
In response, many have sided with the woman and said it was unreasonable of her friend to expect this of everyone.
One person wrote: "That's not a dress code. 'Formal' is a dress code. 'Floor length purple or rose gown' is a costume specification."
While another stated: "It's a bit much to dictate everything about the dress, down to colour."