16 March 2023 , 12:37
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Normally, when newlyweds elope, they don't have to face their parents' wrath until after the fact. But one couple found themselves in a difficult position after telling their family about the plan – then being slammed for making a 'selfish' choice.
The lovebirds don't want to splash out on a big wedding, as they'd prefer to spend the money on their honeymoon. However, the adventurous pair did not count on their parents' reactions.
As the bride explained in a post to Reddit, she's ended up at odds with her family and her in-laws. On the one hand, neither of them care for a formal affair.
The bride and groom upset their families (stock photo) (Getty Images)"We splurge on travel. We both did trekking trips in our early 20s before meeting each other and we want to do an epic two month trip in Australia and New Zealand, " she explained. "It will cost 23k for the trip so we just want to reserve a room in our favourite restaurant and invite our close family and friends which will be around 20 people to have a celebratory dinner and then leave for our honeymoon."
According to the bride, their reasons for doing it are "purely selfish" – and their families aren't onboard with the decision.
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"Both my fiancé's and mine's parents want a traditional 100 person wedding. We don't even know 100 people let alone 100 well enough to invite them to our wedding. But they argue since we have the money to do it we should do it because it's the responsible thing to do and wanting to just spend money on our honeymoon is selfish."
Nonetheless, comments struggled to understand this line of reasoning after hearing the bride's side of the story.
"Having a money bonfire for a marriage, though currently popular, is not the responsible thing to do. Quite the opposite," one person thought.
Another pointed out: "Weddings really are a huge money-sucker and hold no importance when the bride and groom themselves don't want it."
Meanwhile, others questioned if it would be 'eloping' since the couple shared their plans with their loved ones in advance, but nonetheless supported their choice to have a low-key celebration.