07 March 2023 , 16:02
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Being there to support your partner through thick and thin is so important, and many people will drop everything in order to be there for the person that they love. But sometimes, it just isn't possible, and you'll be left feeling guilty, whilst potentially facing the wrath of your unhappy partner as well.
The need to support your partner becomes even more important when they're facing bereavement, and that's why one woman took to a popular Reddit's forum to ask whether they were in the wrong for not taking time away from their duties to support their partner, whose grandma had died.
The woman had assumed her bosses wouldn't be okay with her taking time off (Stock Image) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)She wrote: "I work in the musical department for the military and we have a pretty big concert coming up that just so happens to be on the same day as the funeral.
"I am the lead trumpet player with no one to step in if I am absent not to mention my bosses will be extremely upset with me as it is not MY biological grandmother's funeral.
"My partner is aware of this but is still deeply hurt that I am choosing this concert over him. Am I the a**hole?"
'I don't want children staying up late at weekends - I really need adult time'
People were really shocked at the attitude of the woman, saying it didn't even seem as though they'd asked for the time off.
One fumed: "Sounds to me you didn't even try asking for time off to attend the funeral. For that, you're the a**hole."
"You're the a**hole", another raged. "It's not about their grandmother, it's about your partner, and you are choosing a trumpet solo over them. Funerals are rarely convenient."
Someone else simply wrote: "You're the a**hole if you didn't even ask for bereavement leave.
"You might not get the leave, but it would show your partner that you tried everything you could to be there with them on the day of the funeral. 'My CO ordered me to stay and play' rings differently than 'I want to be the lead trumpet in this concert.'
"Also, there is always someone waiting to take your place. The next senior trumpet player under you would most likely jump at the chance to play your part--and the sooner you ask, the more time they will have to practice if you are allowed to go."
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