'My mother-in-law demands we name our baby after her miscarried child'
While choosing a name for your unborn child is exciting, it can also be extremely stressful. That's exactly what one 20-year-old came to learn after her mother-in-law started demanding she name her daughter after her miscarried child if it's born a girl.
She said on Reddit: "We received news a few months ago that we’re expecting. I never wanted kids, but I figured it was better to have them young than anything else. We found out not that long ago that we were expecting a girl. My boyfriend's mother has always wanted a granddaughter as she had two boys and my boyfriend's brother doesn’t want kids period.
"However, my boyfriend and I decided to keep the gender of the baby a secret until she’s born. One evening recently, my boyfriend and I went out to dinner with his parents and the discussion of baby names came up.
"My boyfriend's mother kept asking what the gender was to be able to decide a name. We explained that we wouldn’t be announcing the gender until birth. She kept insisting we tell her as she needed to help with the name-picking process. We explained to her that we were to decide the names, and it was our decision only."
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Later on, the couple sat his mother down to explain how their child would have the middle name Scott after the 20-year-old's late father, if born a boy. She added: "He passed from cancer when I was 13. My future mother-in-law stated that if I 'get to name the damn baby after him, then the girl's name should be McKenna'.
She added: "My boyfriend's mother was pregnant around 18 years ago and lost the baby during childbirth. The baby would’ve been a girl and she was going to be named McKenna. It’s a heartbreaking story and I feel so horrible that she had to experience that.
"However, I didn’t want my daughter to be named McKenna. I dislike the name, no offense, and my boyfriend had no connection with the baby. He was too young to even know what happened. Regardless of my opinion, if my boyfriend wanted to name our child after one of his loved ones, he could’ve stated that - but he hasn’t."
Annoyed, the mother-in-law called her "rude and selfish" for not even considering the name McKenna, saying her baby has "just as much of a right to be honoured as my father".
She said: "My boyfriend kept insisting that the idea was ridiculous; I was very close with my father. He was sick for years and I even had to watch him die, so naming a son after him would be him living on. He passed at 38, so it’s to honour him.
"My boyfriend never even knew his mother was pregnant until after everything because he was so young and the name McKenna had never even been brought up in their household until now."
Wanting to know whether she's in the wrong for refusing to use the name McKenna, she has taken to social media to ask users for their thoughts. In response, one user said: "I’d really strongly encourage you not to use the name McKenna or she’s going to turn your daughter into her lost child and everything is going to relate back to what she wanted/expected from the child she lost"
Another user added: "Don't let her in the delivery room. While/if you're on drugs, she might fill out the birth certificate. Never trust!" A third user said: "Ask mother-in-law how much her mother-in-law had a say in naming your boyfriend."
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