04 February 2024 , 07:00
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A woman has revealed that her and her fiancé have made the bold decision to un-invite his ‘meddling mother’ to their wedding day – igniting a furious family feud in the process. The 28-year-old, who met her fiancé at college, revealed the couple got engaged last year, and while his dad and sisters were ‘awesome’, his mother was a sore spot for her husband-to-be.
She said: “She is separated from his dad and from what I've heard (and witnessed), the family don't get along much with her,” she said, before adding: “If you met her you'd understand why – she’s super judgemental and rude, and barely has a nice word to say about her own kids, let alone me.”
She went on to say how her fiancé is the only son and youngest child, and was a clear favourite for her out of her children: “She really wants him to be 'mummy's boy’, but he's not that way at all and does a great job of handling her and keeping his distance (which honestly he prefers).”
She also told that when the couple announced their engagement, her fiancé’s mother had become ‘uncharacteristically excited’ before it became apparent that she wanted to frame their wedding day around her: "Think ‘everyone should be praising me for birthing this boy, he couldn't even get married without me!’” she said.
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She then revealed how her mother-in-law had become 'unbearable' in the planning of the wedding: “She was coming along with him to tux fittings, trying to plan out the music (even OUR FIRST DANCE), and getting angry at me for daring to choose a dress she didn't like.” She also told how her mother-in-law had told her son she wanted to walk his bride down the aisle: “So she could ‘have a moment with her son at the altar.’"
With her actions leading to the couple beginning to dread their own wedding, they made the bold decision to invite her to their house to share some news: “We sat her down and gently explained to her that we no longer wanted her to attend the wedding,” she admitted, before telling how she flew off the handle at her, rather than her son: “It was as if I was the one who had influenced the rest of the family to un-invite her,” she admitted.
With her frustration at boiling point, she told her mother-in-law that she had no right to speak to her like that, before delivering the bridal bombshell: "In case you don't know, I'm the one marrying your son, not you.”
After admitting she hadn’t spoken to her since, she also told how she was trying to get her ‘favourite son’ to change his mind: “She also wants an apology from me, and while my husband (and the rest of the family) don't think I did wrong, I kind of wonder if my comment was unnecessary and whether it would've been better to stay the calm and collected party. I'm just so done with her and I wanted to let her know exactly how I felt.”
After taking her tale to Reddit, readers were quick to side with her, reassuring her she did nothing wrong: “I wouldn't care what she thinks,” said one. “It seems everyone agrees she should not be at the wedding, but you may want to hire security to keep her out.”
Another advised her to change all of her vendor passwords: “So she doesn’t try to go in and change things behind your back. Send a limo to chauffeur your mother-in-law to the wedding,” said one reader, before quickly adding: “Have it drop her off at the town dump.”
“You’re off the hook! Don’t ever re-engage. Let your fiancé handle his mother 100%. Block her number. Lock down your social media, and live happily ever after," advised one, while another commented: “You simply matched her energy and defended yourself. You owe her nothing. All you did was stand up for yourself. What you said was actually pretty tame, in my opinion.”