15 January 2024 , 12:05
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It can be hard to form genuine connections as an adult, as often, you're second-guessing whether they actually like you. To help you better understand, an influencer has shared ways to tell if someone secretly dislikes you, so you're not barking up the wrong tree.
TikToker @joshfraseryoung shared some "psychological signs someone secretly dislikes you", warning people "to be advised" about watching the video, as it could change their perception of their current relationships. "Knowing these will open your eyes to how people truly feel about you", he explained, before launching into behaviours many wouldn't have thought twice about their pals exhibiting beforehand.
If your friends "try to outshine you and turn everything into a competition", then it could be time to find some new pals to hang out with. Josh explained that if your friend is always trying to one-up you, it means they could be "jealous of you", as people who dislike you are often jealous. "They can't stand it when you're doing better than you", he said. If your friend shows signs of "envy" they could be a "secret enemy in disguise", he highlighted.
Also, if your friend points out your "flaws or insecurities", they may not be a true mate. If they say things like "Your hair is super greasy today", it means they may not like the fact the "spotlight is on you" at any given moment, so may try to "bring you down in front of others" as a way to try and embarrass you.
Another red flag is when they "frequently misinterpret what you say", because they may have a "negative perception of you". This means that they'll interpret what you say "negatively" - even if you're paying them a genuine compliment. "So when they take your praise as a subtle insult or a slight, know that they're a secret enemy", he claimed.
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In the comments, people said that it was "great advice", and that "too many people do stuff like this." Someone joked: "My mum always said 'If people talk about you, you're worth talking about' so give them a reason to! Makes work more fun!" "Unfortunately this was my last relationship", another penned, with one TikToker saying: "I know someone who does this with everyone."
In another video, he also explained more tells, including a pal downplaying your achievements, them never being the first to reach out to you, and them being nice to other people - but being mean to you.