'Disrespectful' woman slammed for inviting brother's ex-wife to Christmas dinner
A bride-to-be is furious after her finance's sister invited her brother's ex to join them on Christmas Day.
Christmas is supposed to be the most joyful day of the year for many - spent with those we love the most - so the last thing you would want is to bump into your ex. But one man will have to tuck into his Christmas dinner with both his fiancée and ex girlfriend at the table - awkward.
A woman, who wishes to remain unnamed, took to Reddit to share that she didn't want her best friend to be alone on December 25. The pair had been friends for a long time before the 25-year-old bestie and brother, 26, hit it off and later got married. While their relationship sadly ended in divorce, the ex wife remained friends with the family - much to the dismay of the brother's new partner whom he met four months post split.
When the brother's new beau found out the ex wife would be joining them on Christmas Day, the situation took a turn for the worse. "She told me I was being disrespectful," the bride's soon-to-be sister-in-law said.
Explaining about her decision to invite her best friend, the woman said: "My parents are hosting Christmas dinner at their house and when I found out my best friend wasn't spending Christmas with her family, I decided to invite her to my parents' home with my parents permission of course. I told my brother about it to give him a heads up. He didn't care or mind.
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"But when his fiancée found out about it she called me. I reminded her that my brother's ex been my best friend before the two met. She actually knew about this when my brother first told her. But she didn't accept that."
The sister added: "She told me I was being disrespectful inviting my brother's ex wife and I told her if she has a problem with my best friend being there she can just stay home. I feel as though I shouldn't have to stop inviting my friend to events just because my soon-to-be sister-in-law has an issue with it."
The Reddit post has raked in almost 500 responses - some were sympathetic to the worried sister while others advised to disinvited the best friend. One individual wrote: "This person was family to you before she married your brother. Just because your brother got involved, doesn't mean his fiancée now gets veto power.
"I understand she's uncomfortable, I would be, too. But she knew the deal, she had to know this would come up at some point." A second said: "Anyone who freaks out over seeing their significant other's ex at a family Christmas dinner is way too immature to get married."
A third commented: "Your best friend was in your life long before. What happens when you get married? Is the fiancée going to throw a fit that she will be in your wedding? The fiancée needs to get comfortable with the idea that this woman will in one way or another be a part of your life."
Another added: "I think we sometimes get caught up in being right rather than in being kind, and respectful and also weighing the consequences. I am pretty sure your best friend would understand if she was asked to step back for this dinner."
One other wrote: "If this situation had been posted from the fiancé's point of view, there would have been a lot more replies that there should have at least been a conversation before the invitation. It's odd that there are so many here saying the fiancé is totally out of line for being upset."
Another said: "You just created an awkward situation between your brother and his fiancée and yourself. I don't see how the fiancée is supposed to enjoy her time at your parents' Christmas dinner when she knows that her fiancé's ex wife is there too."
One Reddit user commented: "You have communicated to your future sister in law that her place in your family is not important. It is also disrespectful to your brother. In the long run, choosing your sister in law is the right thing because she will be the mother of your nephews and nieces. If she is kind and good to your brother then you should take her feelings into consideration."
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