'I changed daughter's name while wife was asleep - she was being selfish'
A man has been shamed for changing his daughter's middle name behind his wife's back because he didn't like it. He explained how he and his wife came to an agreement over baby names before even trying for children - saying he could name their firstborn son while she could name their firstborn daughter.
But their future child's middle name was always 'up in the air', as they struggled to agree on who could choose the name. Taking to Reddit, he said: " My wife and I just had our second child, a baby girl. The only thing we didn’t agree on was middle names.
My wife decided because she had carried the children she would decide both of their middle names. She wanted to pass on a family traditional name on her mother's side and wanted to pass on her paternal grandmother's middle name as well.
"Our first child, a boy, has the family's traditional middle name from her mother's side. It’s a unisex name that always goes to the firstborn child." When having their firstborn, the man says he "didn't care" about the middle name - but this changed when their daughter was brought into the world.
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"I asked her if we could give the baby my grandmother's middle name and she said no," he added. "We fought but I gave up. Until the nurse came in with the papers to name the child.
"My wife was passed out asleep and the nurse just asked if we had a name picked out. I said yes and filled out the form with my grandmother's middle name. When my wife woke up an hour later I decided to tell her the truth immediately instead of hide it.
"She was p***ed. We got into a huge fight and she claimed she’d be changing it but she can’t because you need both parents to sign off on a name change. It’s been three days and my wife is giving me the silent treatment. Along with her visiting family. Even my family said it was a cruel thing to do while she was asleep."
Wanting to know whether he's in the wrong, he has taken to social media to ask users for their thoughts. In response, one user said: "Your wife just gave birth and passed out and you use it as an opportunity to get your way in an argument? You two seriously need to work on your conflict resolution skills, this is so bad."
Another user added: "I think your grandmother would be ashamed of you for being a sneaky a**hole. Your wife was probably still in pain after giving birth instead of being there to comfort her, you pull this move."
A third user said: "My dad bullied my mum about my name. It led to their divorce, and as an adult with my own kids, and I resent my dad for it too, same with other people whose fathers acted so underhandedly against our mothers when they were so vulnerable. At least he didn’t do it behind her back. This isn’t going away, and your daughter will associate your grandmother’s name with you betraying her mother when she was born. Sounds like a great memorial."
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