Mum threatens kids with 'cruel' revenge if they don't attend her second wedding
A mum has sparked outrage after ordering her children to attend her second wedding - or she won't support them on their big days in the future. The woman says her ex-husband was a good father but a ‘terrible husband’ - and went on to explain how she divorced him when their children were aged 10 and 14. She said: “He ended up spiraling and the kids were exposed to that. I was blamed for ruining dad.”
She continued: “He got better after a few years, but ended up doing it again when he learned I was dating. So the kids kept trying to get me not to date since it would affect their dad. It was an awful time.” After choosing not to post anything about her dating life on social media, and with the kids all in therapy until they were 18, she met her now fiancé, telling her kids, who were now 25 and 21 her happy news.
She said: “They were annoyed I was doing this to dad. Lots of talk later and I thought it was good. The wedding is in two weeks.” After believing everything to be fine, the bride-to-be received a shocking text from her children saying they weren't attending the wedding as they needed to support their father instead. “I had enough and texted them that if they do not go to my wedding it will damage our relationship and I will not be attending their own weddings when they get married,” she recalled.
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The woman, who goes by the name of CalligrapherGrand439 on Reddit detailed how, after a huge row, she had been left deflated. She added: “All of them think I am a huge jerk. I truly hate that I can’t do anything that makes me happy, since it will affect my ex. I can’t do it anymore. It is up to them if they go or not. If they do go I have hope to fix this relationship, if not I’m just done.”
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After being urged by readers to tell her children exactly what had happened with her ex-husband in the past, she shared how they called her a liar when she did. “I think it is over. Thanks for everyone that tried to help. I know this was a no-win situation,” she said.
The post, which received almost 2,500 comments, clearly hit a nerve, with many siding with the mother. “They are adults now and should realise that you are under no obligation to stay single to appease your ex. They are not the only people who have had parents divorce and yet it seems like they can’t get over it,” said one.
Another commented: “Your relationship with your ex-husband is exactly that, your relationship. The kids have no business getting involved in adult situations. And now that they are grown, they are continuing with that selfish behaviour.”
One Reddit reader backed up others’ point of view by saying: “I guess they expect you to be single for the rest of your life, and continue to be manipulated by their father, and now them that they are adults. I would have given them an ultimatum a long time ago, telling them to grow the hell up or move along. If you continue to bow to them now, you will be doing it for the rest of your life and I guarantee you it will ruin the marriage You are about to enter.”
Others, however, felt she had acted too harshly with her children: “I agree with others that you giving them an ultimatum sucks, and was not a good way to handle the situation. Now is the time to be honest with them.”
Another tried to help heal the rift, stating: “I would say that it seems your children have way bigger issue with you getting married to someone else than just your ex (since it’s a big step to decide not to come to your wedding). So try dig deeper and understand what is it…”
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