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Having a baby is a wonderful thing, it’s truly magical. However, it’s also really hard. Being pregnant can be a breeze for some mums-to-be, while others seem to get every symptom, craving, ache, pain, and more.
While most of us are sympathetic, phrases and common sayings occasionally get thrown around in conversation without much thought. Now, pregnant women around the world are sharing the things they really wish people would stop saying to them.
Taking to Reddit to rant, one mum-to-be wrote: I can’t hear this sentence anymore! And everyone says exactly this! The conversation goes like this every time: Person: ‘Hey how are you feeling?’ Me: ‘It's very hard. I can't sleep, I feel so exhausted and everything hurts.’ Person: ‘Yeah, wait until the baby is here. Then it's really hard’.
“It doesn't matter if the person that says this has children themselves or not. They're all saying this and I feel the urge to punch them in the face and scream ‘shut the f*** up’ because it makes me so mad.
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“It feels like they're playing my complaints down and that I have no right to feel miserable because the hard times start when the baby’s here. I hate it the most when it comes from people who don't even have children!!! Like how do you know? I'm so p***ed off by this.”
Feeling her pain and frustration, mums and other pregnant women began offering inspiration on how to handle the situation. One person responded: “The ones I keep in my holster, depending on how snarky I feel: ‘It seems profoundly cruel to ask someone how they're doing only to tell them it's going to get worse’.
"People talk so poorly about when the baby gets here, I can hardly believe everybody was harassing me about when I'd have one’. ‘Gee, thanks for the sympathy,’ ‘The baby is already up all night but inside me,’ ‘At least my partner can help when the baby gets here,’ or ‘WOW, I've never heard that before’.”
Sharing her own pet peeve, another mum said: “One I’ve been getting a lot is ‘Well, this is what you wanted!’ after honestly responding to their question of ‘How are you feeling?’ And this isn’t strangers, it’s my parents and best friend of 20 years. If you aren’t going to be supportive of my experience when you ask how I’m doing, don’t f**ing ask!”
Someone else added: “My favourite is always ‘Get your sleep while you can!’ Just f**k off.” And a third person shared: “Honestly yes this and all the ‘you think a baby is hard, wait till toddler’ / ‘you think a toddler is hard wait till teen’ like for real shut the f*** up. Every stage is hard while you are in it. No need to invalidate someone experience. It does my absolute head in.”