Dad's response to ex-wife who blasted him for helping daughter with period
It's a normal and natural part of life - but this doesn't make your first period any less daunting. Knowing this, one dad took it upon himself to teach his three daughters - aged eight, 10, and 12, about menstruation and everything that comes with it - such as pads, tampons, and menstrual cups.
However, his ex-wife branded him "sick and perverted" for speaking to their daughters about a woman's menstrual cycle, something he doesn't have first-hand experience with. Taking to social media, he asked: "Parents, who should educate young girls about puberty the mother or the father?"
Sharing his situation, he added: "I have three girls. Their mother walked out on us for another man when our youngest was around aged four. My ex still stays in contact and pays child support. A few weeks ago, while doing laundry, I saw red spots on my eldest's underwear. I asked her if she knew about it. She cried and told me she tried to call her mum, but my ex didn't call back. She'd been stuffing toilet paper in her underwear, hoping that that would work."
In an attempt to calm her down, he reassured her that "periods are nothing to be ashamed of" - and showed her some resources he'd found online about menstruation. "I took her to the store to pick out brands of feminine products she may want to use," he added. "After we were done, I decided I should do the same thing with my other two children. My 12-year-old volunteered to be part of preparing them and we made a whole night of it. It was wonderful and I learned a lot. I even learned what a menstrual cup is and how it benefits the environment.
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But when his ex-wife finally called back and heard about what happened, she blew up at him calling him "sick and perverted" for giving their daughters the period chat. He said: "It's been a habit of mine to arrange a video chat and leave the room so they can have some alone time. And when they're done chatting, I'll come back in to talk boring co-parenting stuff like school, bills, etc.
"This last time my ex was furious with me for talking about periods with the girls. She screamed at me saying that I was sick and perverted. Why didn't I call her myself if I knew it was so urgent? I could have called one of their grandmas or aunts, but my mum has dementia and her mum and sisters call me a loser because I teach kindergarten, so I'm not very fond of them."
Firing another shot, his wife called him "immature" and said he should have just "toughed it out" for the girls, rather than educate them about it. "This really p***ed me off, so I answered back that maybe if she wasn't such a deadbeat and answered her goddamn phone once in a while she could have handled this," he said.
"I brought up everything she does that hurts them. She hasn't been to a single soccer game, piano recital, or gymnastics meet in two years. Every other weekend when they come home from her house, they go straight to their rooms, only to emerge hours later asking me why she loves her new husband more than them and what did they do to make her leave.
"My ex responded by saying I should tell them it's not their fault. I was unable to appease her, so I screamed go to hell! She just smirked and pointed behind me saying look what you did! When I turned around, my eight-year-old and 10-year-old were standing in the doorway crying.
"It broke my heart. I never shout, so I know I scared them. My 12-year-old stormed in and started screaming at her mum. And while I appreciate her sticking up for me, this is not something I wanted her to get involved in. My ex hung up before I could fully de-escalate the situation."
Wanting to make it up to his girls, he spent the evening watching a Twilight marathon with them while eating ice cream. Following this disagreement, and others unrelated to this, the man is now fighting for primary custody of their three children with only supervised visits with their mum. He said: "I still want the girls to have a relationship with their mum, especially since the younger two still want to see her, I'm just going to have to make sure I'm present at all times when they're with her."
Commenting on his post, which has since been shared on TikTok, one user said: "I wish I had a dad like this, he seems like a great and caring parent." Another user added: "This is such a good dad I hope everything in his life goes well." A third user said: "No matter if you are mum or dad, you should be there for your child for anything and everything." One more user said: "Even though it’s not ideal for the kids to get involved, sometimes they are the only ones the adult will listen to. Speaking from experience here."
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