Woman seething over sister's 'inconsiderate' name for her husband of 20 years

23 September 2023 , 12:36

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The woman was seething when she learned about her sister's behaviour (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

When you get married or settle down with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you hope that your family will accept your partner and treat them as well as they treat you. But one woman has slammed her older sister for refusing to call her husband by his actual name, as she keeps using an "inconsiderate" moniker instead.

The woman explained her sister has claimed she "wants a better relationship" with her, but she doesn't see how that can be possible when she doesn't show any respect to her husband. She said that her current spouse is actually her second husband, but she had been married to him for over 20 years after divorcing her first in the 1980s. However, her sister keeps calling her brother-in-law the wrong name - and refers to him as her sibling's ex instead.

In a post on Reddit, the woman wrote: "My sister keeps referring to my husband by my ex's name. Mind you, I divorced my ex in the late 80s and he has since passed away, even. My older sister, who claims to want a better relationship with me, keeps referring to my now husband of over 20 years by my ex's name. It's mind-boggling.

"Even after bringing this up to her just a couple of weeks ago, we got a card today, and again she used the wrong name. My biggest complaint about my sister is that she is so self-absorbed and inconsiderate in her dealings with people. She drives me crazy and we are definitely not close, and sadly, we never were. I'm just curious - how would this make you feel?"

Commenters on the post called her sister's behaviour "strange" and admitted it would make them upset too, as they all agreed with the woman that her sister was being out of line with her refusal to call her brother-in-law by the right name.

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One person said: "That is very strange. It would be upsetting to me as well," while another added: "Two can play that game. Pick a name of a woman from her past she hated and start calling her that. Do not use her real name until she addresses your husband by his," and a third posted: "I'd start calling her by your present husband's name. And keep doing it."

And in response to the comments, the woman replied: "I honestly think it's that she just doesn't really care, despite what she says. I saw her in person recently for the first time since before the pandemic and she seemed the same as always."

Zahna Eklund