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Weddings are a very expensive business, even if you choose to do something small and intimate. Most couples save up to pay for their big day themselves but some are lucky enough to be given money from their families.
One father-of-the-bride has been left dumbfounded after his entitled daughter demanded he pay for her entire destination wedding and then gave him the silent treatment when he refused. Taking to Reddit for advice on what he should do, the New York resident wrote: “I told my daughter that I would pay for her wedding but she wishes me to pay for her to have the wedding in New Zealand. My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing of wealth.
“Now my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter's dream wedding a reality?”
The man revealed that his daughter wanted $200,000 to cover the cost. He went on: “It’s already a huge amount of money and this is not counting what guests would have to pay to come. She wants around 200 guests.”
After finding out how much the bride expected, as well as the fact that she and his wife stopped speaking to him because he’d said no, left people disgusted. One person wrote: “You're not stopping her from having a destination wedding. You just don't want to be the ATM. What happens when people can't make it because it's a destination wedding? Are you supposed to pay for them, too?”
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A second user warned: “As someone who lives in New Zealand, I can honestly say that this $200,000 budget will absolutely skyrocket. Everything is expensive in New Zealand. Food, accommodation, domestic flights, gas, it will all be much more expensive than even your daughter can imagine. And as soon as you say the word 'wedding', costs increase at venues, with caterers, with accommodation. Dude, stand your ground. It sounds like your daughter and wife think they can sulk until you give in. Don’t give in.”
Another person reasoned he only had himself to blame as his daughter sounded spoiled. They added: “If your daughter and wife have both stopped speaking to you because of this, then I'm guessing there has been a lot of 'spoilage' in your family to this point, and now you're reaping what you sowed.”
Someone else agreed, telling the man: “In this scenario, you are not the a**hole. But, big picture you are the a**hole as from your comments it appears you are well aware you have raised a spoiled, entitled daughter.”